You know what works for you
/Remember last month when we checked in with each other?
It seems forever ago to me too, and now there’s a war weighing on us.
What I heard from you back then:
You feel overwhelmed by requirements on your already-limited time
Most are similarly stuck in the deep pit of their email inboxes, and
There’s a mutual longing to be reminded of how much we’re already getting right.
So I’m coming to you today with a reminder of just that. Specifically:
You know what works for you.
It doesn’t have to work for anyone else for it to be a successful strategy for you.
As A students it can be really easy to look externally for rules, and then judge ourselves on how well (or not) we follow them.
I get it. External rules to live, work, eat and sleep by are comforting in a way, like when they were listed on the board in third grade. But it’s a slippery slope between Motivation and Comparison, and the latter is downright debilitating.
If you trusted you knew what works best for you, your work, your personal life and time commitments, what would you do? What would you not do?
My guess is you would do a lot of the same things you’ve already been doing but you Would Feel Less Bad About It. Which leads to the second reminder: your way may seem different, and different isn’t wrong. It may be tough sometimes to listen inside for the answer, or to see what you’re already doing, feeling and thinking as right-for-you without any outside confirmation. But it’s true. You are already right and get a gold star.
For the next week, try on the mantra: I know what works for me.
Use it in conversation with loved ones who ask what you’re up to, and in conversation with yourself when you’re figuring out what to do next.
You already know and you don’t have to prove it or explain it, even to yourself.
You are soo right.
